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So the most embarrassing thing that could happen...happened

January 13th, 2013 at 08:15 am

Back in October, my mother found out a former neighbor for whom I babysat got married. She instructed me to get a card and give a little money. This was on Halloween. I wrote a check, gave it to his mom and that was the end of it. Lost track of that check and low and behold, it was cashed last week and bounced. They are a young couple and I feel AWFUL! I have to slink to his mom with tail between my legs and request his address. I am hoping she does not ask why, but if she does I am prepared to be honest. I am also prepared to foot the bill for any fees incurred as a result. Oh the horror!

I am trying to spend a month relaxing about my finances as Jerrold Mundis instructed, but it is so hard, especially with gift checks being bounced. Christmas and a child's immediate birthday add to the financial stress I've placed upon myself. I have been diligently tracking spending, planning meals and even walking the aisles of Aldi calculating my total as I shop. I am going to make poached salmon using a large piece I had stored in my freezer and needed a bottle of wine. WAS going to buy the $6.99 bottle as a splurge and drink a bit myself, but by totaling up my purchase as I shopped I put it back and got the $2.89 bottle instead. It's movement in a good direction.

On a better note, I have been making lots of yummy things from scratch and have not thrown away as much food as a result. Thanks again Lucky Robin! This week I made a slow cooker full of low fat, low calorie lentils. I froze half and ate the rest daily for lunch. Utilized the whole pot! I then made a slow cooker full of coconut curry chicken which we ate for two nights and I ate for another night and a lunch. We used the whole thing! Woohoo! I stuck to our meal plan, didn't eat out and also ate reasonably well for my weight loss goals.

I am trying to stay positive but I am still living in a fog of anxiety and embarrassment right now. Next Saturday I am attending a meeting for people with addictions problems (it is a general meeting. A friend who is in AA suggested I go. I will attend with him.) I want the emotional weight of my finances gone so I can focus and achieve goals.

5 Responses to “So the most embarrassing thing that could happen...happened”

  1. Maranatha Says:

    I'm sorry that happened to you, I hardly ever write checks anymore and when I do it's easy to forget that I did. I'm sure everyone will understand and things will be fine, don't be embarrassed, you are just human! Great job on cooking from scratch and keeping to your budget!

  2. LuckyRobin Says:

    Glad to have helped. That would have been nerve-wracking, about the check.

  3. TexasDisneyGirl Says:

    Sorry about the check. Frown

  4. snafu Says:

    Unfortunately the financial institution will add to your problems by tacking on fees. Don't waste energy being embarrassed, fact is it was just a mistake so please forgive yourself.

  5. Jerry Says:

    That is an easy mistake to make -- especially if you are not usually writing a lot of checks, it can lead to something falling between the cracks like that. If you are just honest and up front about it you should have some insurance that it blows over with no major ill effects! Embarrassing, yes... but not dangerous if it is not a regular occurrence!

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